Mostly, divorce coaches are used in conjunction with attorneys. They help manage the clients and support them by bringing a different set of skills to the divorce process than lawyers do.
Some people lean on friends and family for support that can come with its own emotional baggage: Many divorced individuals, have family members pushing them extremely hard to take their ex for all they are worth or hurt them in another way. Divorce Coach’s job is to be his client's "thinking partner." Divorce is a long process, and the coach goes along for the ride - not as legal counsel or therapist, but as a guide. It's all about creating a safe, supportive, nonjudgmental and patient environment. A divorce coach can really help someone define and refine their goals and get to what really matters.
You may have your emotions in order but not your paperwork. The divorce coach can help you with that.
Divorce coaching is used in conjunction with attorneys and unlike Parenting Consultant, the coach is not an agent of the court.
The meetings are for:
While some people lean on friends and family for support, others need “thinking partner." Divorce is a long process, and the coach goes along for the ride - not as legal counsel or therapist, but as a guide, creating a safe, supportive, nonjudgmental and patient environment. The coach helps define and refine the goals and get to what really matters
There are free and low-cost services available, such as legal aid societies and software programs but if that's still too difficult, a coach is one level up in help.
People may not be sure that they want a divorce. They may be considering a trial separation. A divorce coach will help them find the path and negotiate well for what is right for them and their family. Then there’s the question of whether to hire an attorney, a mediator, a team of collaborative lawyers, or to try it on their own. The divorce coach can help them make the best decision for their circumstances.
· During the Divorce Process:
A process parallel to the legal process, the coach does not offer legal advice but Supports all what stands before them. This includes setting goals, negotiating for them, finding resources, making decisions, taking care of themselves as they go through these processes. Helps communicating with the spouse, the children or family and helps learn the skills to get results and bring peace at the same time.
· After Divorce:
In many ways, after divorce is when the real work of creating a new, better and healthier life for the people and their children begins. The coach gives the attention that people need and teach them the skills and practices that will transform their life into a better life. The coach is allowing the couple -
- A Moment for Respectful Dialogue.
- Searching for the possibility of reconciliation.
- Searching for “lessons” from their Marriage (“making sense of it”).
- Establishment of Clear Boundaries.
- An Enhancement of Authentic Grief.
- A chance to see their future together.
- A place to try on and practice post-divorce styles of communication and create plans for new rituals.
Conflict coaching is used to support peoples’ ability to engage in, manage, or productively resolve conflict. The conflict coach works one-on-one with another person. They talk about the conflict, consider options for managing the conflict and design an approach to discuss the conflict with the other person. Conflict coaching can be used as a stand-alone process, or can be practiced with each of the parties in separate meetings during mediation.
Conflict coaching can be useful in a variety of circumstances, including conflicts in the workplace, divorce, community disputes, family disagreements, or business conflicts.
The conflict coach can be a confidential listener, help to see the situation from all perspectives, support and help considering options and help to come up with a plan of action to deal with the conflict.
In conflict coaching, the coachee, not the conflict coach, is responsible for the outcome. The conflict coach helps the coachee develop more clarity about the situation, enabling the coachee to effectively and confidently make high-quality decisions to manage the conflict. Also, the conflict coach can help the coachee rehearse a conversation so that the coachee is prepared to more confidently enter into the conflict resolution discussion.
Conflict coaching can be a powerful tool to help manage conflict. The conflict coach helps the coachee think through multiple aspects of a conflict and consider options to improve the situation. The conflict coach asks questions, provides feedback, offers insights, and uses active listening. Conflict coaching can be useful at any stage of a conflict, both formally and informally and should be considered when there is an ongoing working relationship or need to communicat
Conflict Coaching is a unique coaching model that provides a practical approach to conflict management by combining the fields of coaching and Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR).
The goals of conflict coaching are:
- to assist people in the resolution or prevention of specific disputes.
- to improve the way they deal with conflicts on a professional and personal level.
- as a pre-mediation or pre-other ADR process to help individuals predict and prepare for any challenges and to effectively participate in the process.
- To prepare clients to contribute in collaborative law meetings.
- as a post-mediation or post-other ADR process to help individuals with any unresolved matters, and ways to manage ongoing interactions;
- to help managers, supervisors and others focus on their methods of dealing with conflict which may warrant improvement.
- To help people enhance their negotiation skills.
- to provide individualized ongoing assistance with participant specific challenges as a part of conflict management training.
- To facilitate self-reflective practice of conflict management professionals and others who work in any capacity, with people in conflict.
Conflict consulting enables participants to explore a conflict they are embroiled in and to develop their own constructive strategies and action plans.
Participants are given the opportunity to further develop skills and consider tactics that may help them move towards a solution. The consultation takes place in a private and confidential setting. it can be used in almost any dispute and can help the participant get clarity about what the next steps might be in moving towards a solution.it assists a person in conflict to express emotion, develop strategies to move constructively forward and to create a conflict resolution action plan. it can be described as a form of mediation, facilitated with only one disputant present, with the mediator acting as a neutral party, as in traditional mediation.
In an effort to make mediation more effective – especially in high conflict cases – we offer pre-mediation coaching services.